Three Keys To Your Success In 2014 – Part Three – Help Others

Three Keys To Your Success In 2014 – Part Three – Help Others

Posted on 27. Jan, 2014 by in Archived Post, Character Counts

In Part Two of the “Three Keys To Your Success” series, I mentioned a good, successful friend of mine who has the unique ability to stay positive regardless of what he’s confronted with and how you can develop and maintain a positive attitude despite the “potholes” you may encounter on your road to building a online passive income business.

Fear-based Selfishness

In the post, I’ll be discussing how serving others can not only help you, but help grow your online business as well. My wife and her big heart plays a huge role in balancing my ultra-conservative approach to life. You see, I have no issues admitting one of my many flaws and that is being a stingy person. It is what it is, but is not as bad as what it once was. I recognize that fear is the main culprit behind my selfishness and my need to “control” certain aspects of my life (whether it be people, money, circumstances, etc.). Thankfully, my wife has been a big help in “turning the corner” to becoming more servant-like. Her “servanthood” nature when it comes to helping others is all about attitude.

I’m sure you have met a waiter or waitress or a worker at the DMV (Department of Motor Vehicles) who, essentially, is being paid to service you….to help you out. But, you can sense they have no desire to help you, let alone speak to you for whatever reason. Their disrespect and rudeness screams out at you like a roaring lion. They simply don’t want to be bothered…yet, they don’t mind being paid to “serve others”.

True Qualities Of A Servant

When my wife and I started dating back in the early 90’s, one of her qualities that stood out to me was her ability to put others ahead of herself and her desires. She was keen to other people’s needs and would make herself available to help regardless of the situation. Now, making herself available to help would frustrate me like crazy!!! It didn’t matter how she was feeling physically, if she could help out, she would. She would set aside her agenda and put up front her desire to help that person.

Anyone can serve someone if they are pushed to do so and others will serve in dire situations or a deepening crisis. I believe most of us fall into one of those categories. But, few will serve outside of the circumstances above….serving outside of those circumstances displays the heart of that person. I’m not saying that those that are pushed to serve or serve in dire crises are selfish or bad people….I’m not saying that at all. What I’m trying to get across to you is the size of the heart of a person that initiates service to others without expecting anything at all in return…not concerned about money, kind words, rank, or position in return for their help. What burns inside the person that initiates a service is pure love and concern for others.

If you are starting a blog or any type of online business, for you to be successful, you need to find out how can you best serve your audience or your customers. Without them, you will fail. You shouldn’t serve them out of fear, but true passion and desire.

How To Develop A Servant-like Attitude

Have you checked your attitude to get a sense of how you feel about serving others? Are you only thinking about the monetary returns of helping others? Or do you have a real, burning desire to step up an serve your audience or customers?

  • Start by listening to your readers, your audience, your customers
  • Ask you audience to submit their comments, questions, and concerns
  • Take the time to peruse through them – make notes and act on them by replying sooner rather than later
  • Determine what can you do for those closest to you like your family and friends. What extra steps can you take to show them you love and care about them? It doesn’t need to be anything major….the little things in life matter as well.
  • Find out how you can serve in your community – make it a goal to get it done before the year is out – get involved and continue to do so until you feel an honest change in your heart

 

8 Responses to “Three Keys To Your Success In 2014 – Part Three – Help Others”

  1. Brooke

    04. Feb, 2014

    I don’t think it’s a coincidence that you selected Helping Others as a key to your success. Around this time last year, I heard a sermon about how developing the spirit of a servant can make our lives so much better. One of the most famous experts on success, Napoleon Hill also talks about fear-based selfishness. In “Think & Grow Rich” he alludes to the fact that we are so afraid of being broke, that we will watch someone else suffer before we let up on our tight clinch on our meager possessions.

    I think it’s important to see how other’s live. To work with people who are worse off than you can be sobering and help you realize that you might have more to share than you think.

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  2. Harvey

    09. Feb, 2014

    Helping others is truly rewarding. I’m looking to take on a mentee or two. I know I could gain a lot more than I think from opening myself up to someone else.

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  3. Alissa

    09. Feb, 2014

    I definitely think this is important not only in creating a successful business, but in all other aspects of your life as well.

    @Brooke We’ve talked about it quite a bit in our church also… I’m really trying to live my life that way, but a lot of the time I forget. I’m a work in progress. This article was a good reminder though!

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    • Brooke

      16. Feb, 2014

      It is a good reminder and once we make it a habit, it’s so easy to do! It’s as simple as picking up a piece of trash or putting something back where it belongs. Even if we can’t see it, we are helping somebody, somewhere.

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  4. Mia

    09. Feb, 2014

    Help others. You know for some people that’s easier said than done. Some people just don’t bother. And that’s not because they’re just being selfish or something but because they don’t see why they have to. I guess when someone’s used to doing things on his own and is not used to asking for help, their first instinct is to not extend help to others. So you know, for some people (not for everyone), helping out is the last thing on their mind. But i really think if they just get to read this blog, somehow they’ll start to see things differently.

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  5. Beatrice

    09. Feb, 2014

    Knowing about someone’s needs is one thing, but going out of your way to do something about it is another. And to do it without even selfish intentions, how do some people do it? I mean, I’m not one to turn her back when someone needs help, but if I’m being honest, I help because I need to or I’m expected to. I don’t think I’ve ever been in a situation where I gave help because of some selfless reasons. I guess this adds a whole lot of other perspectives to me.

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  6. Gale

    09. Feb, 2014

    For me, being able to help others is the most selfless thing to do. Acknowleding one’s needs and putting them in front of yours, that’s probably the whole essence of being human. There are situations where when after helping someone, they don’t even say thank you. That kind of ungratefulness makes you want to stop helping. That’s why I have so much respect for people who do everything they can just to reach out and even though they don’t get a thank you in return, they don’t lose the desire to help. I think your wife is one of these amazing people.

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  7. April

    13. Feb, 2014

    That’s exactly what you’re doing here Dave. I’m sure the help you’ve given us readers will bring you success in some way.

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